JONESBORO, AR (KAIT) - "Stranger Danger" is something we tell our children to say to keep them from being harmed by a predator, but in this day and time, those two words just aren't good enough. "How to" manuals are now available on the Internet to help child predators turn their desires into a parent's worst nightmare.
A guide titled "The Pedophile's Guide to Love and Pleasure" was sold as a Kindle Reader e-book download from Amazon.com, but after public outcry, the manual was quickly pulled.
"It's the most disgusting thing I've ever seen," says Family counselor Alina Gestasi, "I don't understand why anyone would write this. It's something that in every way, he is not acknowledging the victim," says Gestasi.
The author of the e-book, Philip Greaves II, disagrees. "I don't think it's always bad for the child, but I do think it's always confining for the adult."
'The Pedophile's Guide to Love and Pleasure" isn't the only manual out there. Another manual, titled "How to Practice Child Love," has recently been removed from the Internet by police. It consisted of more than 170 pages showing watchers how to make the transition into abusers.
Jonesboro Detective Ernest Ward, with the Internet Crimes Division, says he can't believe anyone would publish this kind of information. "I believe in power of the press and freedom of speech as long as it's not hurting someone," says Ward, "But, when it's hurting a child, I don't like that. It crosses the line. That's my personal opinion.
"We see these people watching child pornography and downloading child pornography," continued Detective Ward. "They are building toward something, and that's usually to have sex with a child. The target age is between 2 and 8."
This particular manual is broken down into sections with great detail including where to find a child. The author writes of four important advantages when looking for a child to molest or have sex with. He lists the advantage of owning an animal, adding that rabbits and puppies attract little girls best. He writes about the advantage of searching in poor communities, finding sad and lonely children, and using schools as starting points.
"This is ridiculous," said a mother outraged over this manual for pedophiles. Several years ago her 8-year-old daughter was molested and raped by a pedophile living in their neighborhood. She thought he was a family friend. "To this day I look in the mirror, and ask 'How come I didn't see it?'"
She didn't see it because pedophiles are smooth operators. They know the tricks, and they know a vulnerable child when they see one.
"It's not going to happen to my child, that's what everybody thinks," says Detective Ward. "We have to be active in our kids' lives and know who they're interacting with."
With today's technology, it's obvious that predators have playbooks they can share. As parents, we need to establish protection playbooks of our own and share them with our children.
"The best weapon…the best training a kid can have is right here," says Ward pointing at his head, "a parent telling them what not to do and why. It's a conversation every parent must have with their children. Watch your kids, because this is something that shouldn't be."
There are several characteristics that may signal the personality of a child predator. These may include the following:
- Child predators are typically afraid of adult intimacy.
- Child predators search out children who are vulnerable and easily manipulated.
- A child predator may refuse to take responsibility for his actions.
- A child predator generally needs to control others.
- A child predator may have been abused as a child.
- A child predator often has a great desire for power.
- Child predators typically have a low self-esteem.
Child molesters typically target vulnerable children. Keep your child safe with these tips:
- Never leave your child unsupervised in a public place or even in your front yard.
- Don't allow your child to roam the neighborhood by themselves or even walk down the street alone.
- Don't leave your child at places that are havens for children, such as public parks, video arcades or even the mall.
- Be sure you talk to your child about their body and their right not to be touched.
- Continue to educate your child as they grow and start early!
For more tips go to: www.childprotection.lifetips.com/cat/63584/child-predators/index.html