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The other day a friend texted me as she was packing up to move across the country: HELP! I am overwhelmed because I have so much STUFF. I am feeling buried alive. I know you have figured out how not to hold on to things. Can you give me some perspective? I need some tough love.
When I got her text I was standing in front of my bookshelf, hyperventilating. I happen to be moving in a few days, too though just a couple miles away, not out of stateand I was in a state of panic. My shelves were just the tip of the iceberg; I hadnt even started on the kitchen, bedroom or closets. Here is an (incomplete) inventory of the bookshelf in question:
*Books I love but havent touched in years (because I already read them)
*Important papers I need to fax to the IRS (as soon as I find them)
*A stack of old homework and Scholastic book club flyers brought home by my children, dating back to the fall (the IRS papers are in that stackI HOPE)
*A favorite photo of my grandmother who recently passed away (I always meant to frame it)
*Many, many CDsfrom my old Beatles collection to the Taylor Swift album my daughter got for her birthday (we have all of them on iTunes now).
What to pack, what to toss, and how long before the IRS gives up and spends my tax refund on something else? (Can they do that?) I felt guilty for never framing the picture of my grandmother, the idea of throwing away the CDs made me nauseous, and I dreaded hauling a lot of heavy books to my new placeno matter how good they were.
So why was my friend was asking me for advice? Because Im supposed to be the expert. I moonlight as a personal organizer. People pay me to come to their homes and make them throw things awayeven though I still cant get rid of the Christopher Pike books I was obsessed with in high school.
Its not news that Americans have a clutter problem. Instead of dealing with our excess stuff, we buy bigger houses, rent storage units, install organizing systems to try to contain it, or pawn it off on others via endless stoop, yard and garage sales.
I tell my clients that the secret to becoming a clutter-busting machine is simplethough not always easy: prioritize people over things. When you value yourself (and your sanity!) more than any material possession, throwing stuff out becomes easy. Dont just organize your stuffget rid of it. Be ruthless. If you're hanging on to a lot of stuff you don't use or need, then no amount of bins, shelves or hooks will solve your clutter problems.
If your stuff causes you stress, it needs to go. Here are a few guidelines for tackling common clutter magnets:
Clothes: Needs to be mended? Has a stain you cant get out? Never quite fit right, or doesnt fit anymore? Toss it. Forget the stoop sale and the consignment shop. Take it to a fabric-recycling center or throw it in the trashbut get it out of your life.
Books: You read them and loved them. But are you really going to read them again? Go through your books and weed out the ones you can let go of. Put them out on the street if you live in that kind of neighborhood, donate them to a school or library sale, or just throw them awayI wont tell if you wont.
Photos and other mementos: This is a tricky one. My philosophy? Its only worth hanging on to if you love it enough to display it. Frame pictures and hang them up, make scrapbooks for keepsakes, put up shadowboxes and display shelves. If something is collecting dust in a box shoved under the bed, it might as well be in the trash. Remember be ruthless! (On this one though, give any relatives who might want your family heirlooms the chance to take them off your hands before you break out the garbage bag.)
When I do a big stuff purgethrowing away things that were perfectly good, just not good for meI feel guilty for maybe five seconds before a feeling of lightness and freedom takes over. The high that I get from getting rid of stuff makes me more productive, more patient, kinder and more generous with my time, because it is not spent being stressed about clutter. Any lingering guilt just helps me to be more mindful of what I DO take into my home in the future.
Here is the text I ended up sending my friend:
GET OUT THE TRASH BAG! If something has negative memories attached to it, it goes. If you are tempted to keep something because the thought of getting rid of it makes you feel guilty, it goes. Before you pack something, think how youll feel when you unpack it. Will you be excited to find a place for it? If it got lost in the move, how upset would you be? It is just STUFF. Getting rid of things you don't love makes more room in your life for things that you do. NOW GO GO GO!!!
And now if youll excuse me, I need to get busy and take my own advice. Theres a certain bookshelf calling my name.
Elizabeth Nelson writes about family, finances, and how to live with less stuff and more joy. She wrote this article for Networx. Want her organizing help? Find her on Twitter: @AnotherAnnie.View original post.